{"id":1388,"date":"2025-02-14T08:59:27","date_gmt":"2025-02-14T07:59:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/oudesite.hannekevandergoes.com\/title-1\/"},"modified":"2026-03-15T11:00:35","modified_gmt":"2026-03-15T10:00:35","slug":"title-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/oudesite.hannekevandergoes.com\/en\/2025\/02\/14\/title-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Stages in grieving"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Stages in grieving<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n

When we think of stages in grief processing, we often have the idea that grief is a linear process. The well-known stages from denial to acceptance, as described by Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross in 1969, are often cited. At the time, this model was developed in a medical context and was particularly intended to describe the reactions of terminally ill patients. Since then, however, much research has been done on grief, and new insights show that grief does not follow a fixed sequence. Rather, it is a dynamic and personal process of adjustment to a new reality. <\/p>\n\n

Another way of looking at grief<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

Grief is not only an emotional experience, but can also be seen as a form of stress. Within this stress, we can distinguish two main components: <\/p>\n\n

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  1. The grief itself<\/strong>: the realization that the person you loved is no longer physically there. This brings intense emotions such as missing, pain and sometimes even anger or guilt. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. The changes the loss brings<\/strong>: In addition to the emotional aspect, grief also brings practical challenges. Consider a changed role in the family, financial or administrative responsibilities and feeling alone. <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n

    You go through a period when you have to reacquaint yourself with the world, from a different perspective and without the presence of the deceased loved one.<\/p>\n\n

    Self-care and coping strategies in the grieving process<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

    Grief can be compared to a river. On one bank is the loss, and on the other bank is the stress and changes brought on by the loss. You are constantly moving between these two sides: one moment you are overwhelmed with grief, the next you are dealing with the practical consequences of the loss. Sometimes you need a break and stay in the middle of the river to catch your breath. <\/p>\n\n

    This process, also called the dual-process model, shows that grief is not a one-way or linear process. You are constantly faced with both emotional processing and the practical consequences of the loss. Because both processes can be tough, it is essential to take regular rest. By pausing occasionally and creating breathing space, you build resilience and can better cope with the challenges of grieving. <\/p>\n\n

    Connection with the deceased<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

    Whereas older grief models focused on letting go of the connection with the deceased completely, modern grief research shows that this connection never completely disappears. Many people find that they continue to bring their loved one into their lives in some way, such as by cherishing memories, creating rituals or drawing meaning from the relationship they had. <\/p>\n\n

    The realization that the bond with the deceased remains can be comforting. It can help you reflect on the impact this person has had on your life and how you can give that meaning a place in your continued life path. <\/p>\n\n

    From loss to resilience: the journey to recovery<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

    Grief is not only about coping with loss, but also about finding a new balance in life. This does not mean “forgetting” or “shutting down,” but finding a way to live with the loss and give the memories a lasting place. <\/p>\n\n

    An important question in this process is: How do you give meaning to what has happened? You can do this by reflecting on who the deceased was to you, what you learned from them and how you can integrate these valuable lessons into your life. In this way, grief is not only a source of pain, but also a source of growth and resilience. <\/p>\n\n

    Grief is not a linear process and proceeds differently for everyone. It is a constant interaction between grief and adjustment, between letting go and holding on, and between pain and growth. By taking good care of yourself, acknowledging the connection to the deceased, and finding meaning in the loss, you can walk a path that focuses not only on coping, but also on resilience and personal growth. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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